By Olutoye Esther
Some of them uses the term “get them young”, some sees it as “cruise”, some takes it a bit religious to form a “social media group to discuss their new prey”, some sees it as a passage rite into becoming one of them while some sees who you are exactly, the gem, that’s right! Therefore, as a female student you might need to understand their how you’re perceived.
As always, there is that boost of ego or should it be called a sort of energy that comes alive knowing you’re been seen amidst thousands of others. Like someone actually pays attention to your persona, finds you intriguing from their first encounter with you or from their frequent observation of you. Wow, aren’t you a gem after all. Well, you’re a gem unquestionably but does he actually sees you that way? Yes, the observer or approacher is an He in this case. What does he see then? What category does he classify you to? A cruise? Get them young? Bragging right or the gem?
It’s vital to know that each category, comes with its own level of dedication of chasing. Surprisingly, research shows that all categories experience such a strong chase that one finds it difficult to differentiate which is true. Which one is the true or false chase? Well, here is some of their scheme you can utilize to tell them apart.
While writing might not pass this golden words to your ears, hopefully experience doesn’t. But as they say experience is the best teacher.
For the false chasers: Firstly, they are rapid texters, who have a tradition to message all their preys in the morning. Secondly, they make sure to call each of their preys nightly and give excuse to their unavailability during the day. Probably went to class or cook up some lie, which they’re very good at. Thirdly, is not committing to you on time, they stall the talking stage long enough for you to believe the illusion of being in a relationship, which you’re not. Why? To save them the commitment that comes along with being serious, sometimes material provisions or emotional entanglement. Fourth is building trust, they make you meet their friends, fellow accomplice by the way and make you see a part of their personal life they want you to see. That way you feel involved in his life meanwhile you don’t even know him one bit. Lastly is the tact of asking you to come over. You can guess what happens from there…
How can you avoid this kind of draining entanglement as a female student? One is listen. You can research on him, ask fellow female friends about him. Ask for his gist, by researching from your fellow sisters, you might learn he’s also asked your roommate’s coursemate out. That way, you don’t waste your time. But if you choose to keep him a secret, well an ignorant person is as good as the blind walking on broken bottles. Secondly, recognise the red flags and stop calling it pink! Don’t tolerate the red flags, you know them already. Thirdly, note the reigning promiscuous men on campus, research on them. Out of your 6 female friends, 1 will know them. Just the mention of their name, you’ll discover he’s a tasteless skirt chaser. If only their name could be whispered to you from here.
